Online Workshop
In these workshops, we will shed light on this sense of inadequacy and the fear of not being good enough, that lies beneath our protective armour; masks and strategies, so that we can manage it in a healthy and nourishing way. This way, we can embrace a higher quality of intimacy with ourselves and true, deep intimacy with others.
Feelings of not being enough, shame and unworthiness begin early in life. Even as babies we begin to receive a model of how we should be, how we should behave and how we should feel.
The underlying message we are receiving is that ‘the way I am is not good enough, my natural way of being is not ok’. The fear of not being worthy of love starts our pretence of becoming “someone else”.
This brings up the unconscious belief: ‘If others see me as who I really am, they will not like me, they will not want to be with me, they will not love me. I will be rejected’
We then begin to generate strategies to convince ourselves, and others, that ‘I am valued, I am capable and I am worthy of love’, trying to hide who we really are. This results in a disconnection from our true energy and eventual frustration and exhaustion.
Our emotional world is waiting to be received with acceptance, love and approval for who we really are.
When we understand how this fundamental fear of not being good enough works, it offers us the possibility to find this inner part of ourselves without rejecting it, to meet it with presence and love. Our entire world takes another dimension from that moment.
Subjects we’re going to explore:
- How our emotional world works and how we have learnt to avoid it.
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Why after so much energy invested in seeking approval, being valued and loved, do I still experience this feeling of not being good enough?
- Why sometimes we feel a sense of inadequacy, or feel that we are not up to standard or not as we should be.
- What is the wound of shame and unworthiness and how to heal it
- The trance of unworthiness. How it is experienced in the body, thoughts and behaviours and how we can bring the light of love and consciousness to our emotional world.
- The fear of exposing ourselves and how to use it in an enriching way in intimacy.
- Trying to hide our shame through: feeling of superiority, pride, dishonesty, saviour role, addictions, shyness, isolation, etc. and how these armour patterns create more affliction like an infection inside - and how to deal with it.
- Waiting for someone to cover up my insecurities.
- The difference between toxic shame and healthy shame.
- How to handle and manage our insecurities, fears and emotional wounds in a healthy way.
- Shame as an e-motion, energy in motion that can lead us to satisfy our needs instead of reacting. Instead of trying to avoid it we learn to listen to it.
- Meditation as a way of accepting and loving ourself.
We will explore together, with self-compassion and courage, how we can navigate these painful feelings about ourselves. You will understand the wound of shame and how to heal it. Loving ourselves into healing, bringing mindfulness into what’s going on, you will discover ways to allow, support and enhance deep love and intimacy – with yourself and with others.
