In this workshop we bring the light of awareness on the strategies we use that prevent us from creating authentic relationships. So that we can create healthy and enriching relationships with others and with ourselves.

Since we have insecurities in our inner world that we are not dealing with in a healthy way, we have expectations and demands on the other that are often unconscious.

When we do not get what we expect, or when the other is not being the way I would like them to be, we often immediately and unconsciously use strategies such as manipulation, righteousness, closing the heart, etc. We use them to escape our uncomfortable feeling of not getting what we want or trying to get what we want.

This leads to an inauthentic and unhealthy relationship. We often fall into a “strategies dance.” For example, one reacts by blaming and the other responds by withdrawing. Or one begs and the other responds by manipulating, etc.

We use these strategies to avoid fear, insecurities and pain and we create distance and unhealthy relationships instead of nurturing intimacy. By bringing awareness to them we find alternatives that open doors to experience the love and intimacy we long for.